Krogel: Babysitting offers insight into the role of a parent

This week, I got to be the tooth fairy. Despite forgetting to remove my little brother’s tooth from under his pillow, it went smoothly.

This week, I got to be the tooth fairy. Despite forgetting to remove my little brother’s tooth from under his pillow as I left him a dollar, the routine went smoothly.

I was able to add “played the part of a mythical creature” to the list of parental responsibilities I had to fulfill while my parents were away for a few days.

When they go away and I, as the oldest sibling, am left to make sure that everyone is fed and not hospitalized, I come to the conclusion that I never want to have my own kids or house to look after because of the chaos.

But, after awhile, the thought of living at home for the rest of my life joins with the love that my parents have for us to remind me that having a family is a great joy.

While my mixed emotions about this approaching stage in my life are always present when my parents are away, the main thing I feel is appreciation for them.

Until you have to take on some of their daily jobs, you don’t realize how much they do for you.

Between the driving, cooking, cleaning, and moneymaking parents have a full day. But their job also goes much deeper than these daily routines; they try to bring you up to be the person that you should be.

Parents try to guide you to what they believe is best for you, and while this sounds objectively like something that you should have immense appreciation for, sometimes the feelings that parental guidance incites are closer to frustration.

There have been times when my parents have said no to something I wanted, and my reaction could only be likened to how I feel when I’m losing at Mario Kart (few things frustrate me more).

But looking back on these times, I am often glad that my parents didn’t allow me to do some of the things I asked.

This largely has to do with the fact that they’re good at foreseeing problems I would never think about. Listening to my parents helps me avoid those situations that don’t end up as well as I thought they would.

Needless to say, parents still make mistakes. Sometimes the frustration I feel isn’t overshadowed by the realization that they were right. But thankfully, relationships are more about overcoming these problems than each member being perfect.

This week I occasionally had to tell off my younger brother when he wasn’t listening, and it wasn’t pleasant. If I could have given him candy and played with him instead, I would have, but then he would have gone to school in his pajamas or spent the whole day watching TV.

I often forget that when my parents discipline me, it’s not out of a sadistic desire to make me unhappy—it’s because they love me.

When you’re able to see things from their perspective, it seems like parents do a better and bigger job than we give them credit for.

Amber Krogel is a grade 12 student at Kelowna Christian School.

 

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