Author to offer insights on raising boys

Barry MacDonald to speak at Kelowna Community Theatre, Oct. 26.

  • Oct. 11, 2011 3:00 p.m.

Take one look at Diane Oorebeek’s son Owen literally climbing the walls and one can see where a little parenting advice might have seemed like a good idea.

When the youngster was in preschool, she received an email about Barry MacDonald, an author, teacher and counsellor who specializes in boys and decided to attend.

“It was definitely very informative. It just looked at how, in general, boys look at things very differently from the way girls, and moms, do,” she said.

Where women might use 2,100 words in an average day, men might typically use 700, she learned, so Oorebeek started adjusting her requests to use fewer words.

“Rather than saying put on your shoes I’ve been waiting for…and going into a long explanation, it’s better to just say ‘shoes,’” she learned.

She also discovered boys are far more prone to fidgeting and that fidgeting is likely helping their brain function normally, so asking them to stop moving and pay attention is somewhat counterintuitive.

Oorebeek, now part of the Bankhead Elementary School Parent Advisory Council, is helping to bring MacDonald in to speak in order for other parents to learn the things she has.

“I have seen him several times,” she said.

“Each time my sons are at different ages, so I take something else from it.”

To learn more about MacDonald, parents can go to

His talk will be held Wednesday, Oct. 26, from 6:30 to 8:30 p.m. at Kelowna Community Theatre and is being hosted by the Bankhead Elementary School PAC.

Tickets are being sole through Bankhead,,


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