Bernard ‘Barry’ McIver

Bernard 'Barry' McIver

BERNARD “BARRY” MCIVER Passed away on Thursday, December 8th at the age of 87. Survived by his loving family,

wife Trudy, son Bryan, daughter Pat (Dave), Grandchildren Shaun (Vanessa), Kevin, Great Granddaughter Mikayla, Carol and his sister Pat Arcand. He was predeceased by his son David, mother Harriet and father Bernard. Barry was a

fine person as kind a man you would ever meet. A son of a farmer he could make all

manner of things grow. He had magnificent vegetable gardens at the original family property on the corner of Benvoulin and KLO Roads in Kelowna. His well laid out plots were bountiful with robust tomatoes, cucumbers, strawberries, yellow beans and an asparagus patch unlike any other. He served in the RCAF at the end of the Second World War as a Flight Sergeant. He was a carpenter and a millwright by trade and a loyal member of the IWA. He could fix anything and build everything including the family home still located on Benvoulin Road. Following a full days work at the Kelowna plywood plant he would labour long into the night month after month until the house was completed. Barry skillfully applied his inventive mind to making special devices to assist his disabled son David who was a quadriplegic. Barry and Trudy were a team providing lifelong personal care for David. They sustained him through many physical and health challenges until he passed away at age 53. Barry was studious and hardworking with a

tremendous curiosity for the things of nature. He was selfless, never hesitating to help family members and strangers alike. He was quiet and accepting of all people seldom if ever judging his fellow humans and never

complaining about his circumstances not even as he struggled to draw his last few breaths before his heart failed him and he passed away. He will be honoured and missed by all who knew him. And they will say “He was a fair and good man.” There will be a small gathering of

immediate family members per his wishes. His ashes will be laid to rest at Lakeview Memorial Gardens next to his

beloved son David. In lieu of flowers we will remember Barry for his kindness and honesty by practicing acts of

random kindness wherever we go. Condolences may be sent to the family by visiting www.mem.com and searching Bernard’s name under the stories.


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