Often, when we are faced with challenges and adversities in life, we tend to ask questions like “Why me? Why now?” and “Why this?”
Asking “why” questions will perpetually keep you in victim thinking.
In order to shift into a position of empowerment you need to give up asking “why” and start asking “what am I going to do about it now?”
This shift in perspective requires both strength and courage.
What I have discovered for myself is that I need to surrender the outcome and trust that whatever my experience is in life, be it perceived as positive or negative, is leading me somehow to a greater expression and realization of my highest good.
Some might argue that this is Pollyanna thinking – but the bottom line for me is that this line of thinking changes my perspective of my life circumstance from feeling victimized by life to an experience of learning.
And, ultimately, in this I am thrown into an experience of profound growth. Not always a pleasant experience, I might add, but invaluable nonetheless.
We all experience challenges and adversity in our lives – this is an undeniable truth.
However it is not the event itself that determines our experience, but rather how it is handled and defined that determines its ultimate effect on us, be it positive or negative.
But what I find happens is that it can be difficult to separate the experience in my life from my human emotions attached to it.
It’s challenging to see the larger spiritual picture when I am immersed in the human emotion around it.
In the book Why Me, Why this Why Now, author Robin Norwood states, “Usually we base our evaluation of whatever is occurring on how we feel when it is happening—comfortable or uncomfortable, satisfied or dissatisfied, happy or depressed.
“When the life we’re leading is unfolding the way we anticipated, we assume we are doing things correctly. Conversely, if life is handing us an adversity we tend to think that there must be something wrong.”
On a human level we tend to classify adversity as suffering. On a spiritual plane, our soul sees adversity as an opportunity for expansion, expression and enlightenment.
Your suffering can actually act as a stepping stone to personal and global transformation.
As you come to terms with and embrace your challenges in life, you can begin to see the gifts that may be present within the experience.
Instead of asking “why me,” ask yourself “what wisdom have I gained from this experience?”
Has this challenge given me a deeper understanding of myself?
Has this challenge led me to a deeper level of compassion for both myself and others?
Has this challenge allowed me to assist others who are suffering? Has this challenge strengthened my faith?
How has this challenge demonstrated to me my own personal strength?
Has this challenge required that I step into my authentic self?
What intangible gifts has this brought into your life?
Has it given you a new appreciation for things that you once took for granted?
Finding the learning within an experience means becoming an alchemist in your own life.
How can you extract the gifts from the discouraging and dreariest aspects of your life?
By having faith and trust in a bigger picture, you can find the courage and strength to see your life challenges in a new rewarding way.
Annie Hopper is a brain retraining specialist
and core belief counsellor.